Stephane Preteux - MSc MBACP(Accr)


Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy


E1 - SW18 - KT17

Tel: 07921 860 498

What is Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy?

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Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy is a process which sees the patient’s speech as carrying two distinct messages: one for the interlocutor (or audience) and another message which the speaker can’t consciously perceive. In effect, psychoanalytic psychotherapy asks the question:

What are we telling ourselves when addressing somebody else?

Psychoanalysis postulates that this message (hidden from the speaker) is influenced by some Thing (in German ‘Das Ding’) graspable through what cannot be said only. The ‘gap’ or split between the things we say and what we ideally want those words to convey constitutes our Desire. Left unheard or unsymbolized this desire may eventually produce symptoms – including those indicated below – by forcing the body (or mind) ‘to join in the conversation’. Thus, for Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, desire is a compass that guides the clinic (see its Ethics below), with speech the only means of access to the truth of this desire: a speech known as ‘free association’.

Anxiety designates a whole range of affects and phenomenon. Those include, but are not restricted to, panic attacks, vertigo, a general sense of worry, uncertainty and doubts as to which direction to take in life. Bodily phenomena may include breathlessness, palpitations, muscle tension, fatigue, dizziness, sweating and tremor. If we can never be sure what the reasons are behind our feeling, say, happy or sad (happiness can cause sadness or guilt) anxiety has an overwhelming certitude attached to it: it is real and true, something in front of which all words and categories cease and fail. Anxiety can be felt when there is a sudden change of our place in the world and how we used to see ourselves in it. Put differently, we can no longer rely on the desire of the Other as a compass to situate ourselves. Instead, we exist in suspension between a moment where we no longer know where our place is and a future where we will never be able to refind ourselves. Anxiety is often found to be laying at the origin of obsessive thoughts. Those can emerge, for instance, in relation to what a significant other thinks or what catastrophic scenarios may be waiting. For the existentialist philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre, anxiety is evidence of our freedom. Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy approaches it from the fundamental notion of absolute loss, a ‘lack of a lack’, and sees desire as its ultimate remedy.

Do you find yourself eating or sleeping too much or too little? That you are pulling away from people and activities because of low or no energy? Some of us may have reached this point in life when nothing matters anymore, leaving us instead confused, isolated, angry, worried or scared, perhaps even having suicidal thoughts. In cases where all seems to look well and ‘perfect’ on paper, this feeling of disillusionment can be quite baffling to understand. One way of looking at depression is as this force or movement which drives our lives. Just like a heart that has stopped beating, depression marks a stop to this vital movement. Given the set of circumstances and how long things have been kept this way unaddressed, it may be challenging for some people to regard their issues as worth investigating. Often placated by feelings of shame we tend to fall back on the basic assumption that us alone can change our situation. Unsurprisingly, questions of anger, frustration and isolation are often central to the experience of depression. In Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, I approach this issue with the view to reintroducing a movement using the element of surprise.

Relationship fall-outs are expressions of a very toxic form of aggressivity between partners. Typical signs showing issues in relationships include living in tension and mutual rejection, jealousy, passive aggressivity, denial and blaming: personal criticism are expelled by projecting them onto someone other.

In an explicit reference to the German philosopher Hegel (1807), Lacan argues that a fraught relationship is ‘imaginary‘ in nature: a life and death struggle for ‘pure prestige‘. The competitor is seen as a rival, whose elimination appears to be the safest option. Generally speaking, we may say that aggressive attacks are a form of response which it is useful to understand as so many signs indicating that one’s defense mechanism is somehow stuck in overdrive. The protective thoughts and ideas that the person has formed of and for himself or herself – the ego – are felt to be under constant attacks and threatens to collapse. Those are moment of great vulnerability and risk. Retaliations- verbal or physical – are so many  desperate attempt to protect oneself against the anxiety that the threat of disintegration immediately poses.

Jealousy is experienced when the ego concludes that the other with whom one is competing has the advantage, and has somehow something that one lacks. Feelings of jealousy reflect the desire to have this advantageous position for oneself, and the wish to eradicate this frustrating other.

Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy sees working with issues in relationships as one of ‘un-knotting’ the multiple threads that have led to this situation, to try and dislodge one’s frozen and stereotyped perceptions and evaluations with the view to assuming some responsibility and create some movement towards renewed contact.

One avenue of exploration may include, for instance, the different relationships the patient used to have with his or her significant others.

Anger may be categorised as any forms of violence expressed towards others or oneself in self-harm. In the former, symptoms of anger include bullying, threatening people, persecuting, insulting, pushing or shoving, using power to oppress, shouting or playing on people’s weaknesses.

Psychoanalysis regards anger as a ‘passage à l’acte’: a form of ‘acting out’ with no control. We become violent when the Real has come to possess such a grip on us that the fictional character we had created of ourselves to contain it breaks down. However paradoxical this may sound, Psychoanalysis Psychotherapy understands anger as a form of ‘deadly enjoyment‘ which, in its final analysis, expresses nothing other than a rejection of what is felt to be a threat to one’s sense of integrity. For Freud, hate and anger are more ancient feelings than love. In this context, the clinical work consists of using language as a way to make something of this anger. The exercise of symbolisation realised in therapy may well be initially experienced as somehow exacerbating this feeling further, but should in due time transform itself into some useful and creative productions.

In certain situations we may find it almost impossible to act, and instead react as if feeling self-conscious and unable to act in a natural way. Symptoms of inhibition include shyness, reticence, procrastination (delaying), reserve, embarrassment, unease, wariness, reluctance, discomfort, hesitancy, apprehension, nerves, nervousness and insecurity.

The experience of inhibition can be transitory, for instance in a surprise accident from which we eventually recover, or last some extended period of time while bringing with it feelings of isolation and anger. From another person’s perspective, it may look as if nothing is really going on. In fact, being quiet may even be encouraged and seen as a positive personality trait (especially for men), that is, until eventually some violence is done and personal ties are cut. Symptoms of inhibition include fear; being hyper sensitive to the other’s reactions; feelings of being disconnected or dissociation. In therapy, it may be useful to invoke the place and presence of the Other with its omnipotence. In Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy it is essential to help patients try to remember anything that could have been felt as particularly traumatic. It may also be useful to explore the various relationships the patient had with this so-called ‘omnipotent Other’.

As a derivative of the experience of inhibition, issues of self-confidence can be usefully regarded in therapy as revolving around the notion of power, the perceived lack of which is based on an image (the ego) which, by its very nature, is in fact deceptive. This is not to say that feeling of low self-confidence is not real; this ‘hole in the mirror’ can eventually have a significant impact on one’s life if left unattended. The society we live in demands that we continuously show self-confidence, short of being arrogant (which is just another form of lack in confidence). The work undertaken in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy includes encouraging patients to describe their significant relationships with the view to identify those specific descriptions that have an alienating influence. It is also to help patients identify with what works for them, or ‘syntom’.

Moods can oscillate more or less suddenly between extremes of euphoria and a sense of invulnerability (in some cases with spending habits getting out of control) morbid, self-deprecating or even suicidal thoughts. The clinical work is primarily one of trying to achieve some form of stability, then to reduce or ‘average’ the gaps between highs and lows. Explorations to this effect are encouraged by helping patients provide some detailed descriptions of their experience, but also to help them remember if any significant events had occurred in their past, the things they may have heard being said while growing up. The desire or willingness to become curious about those moods swings; the time at which they appear; what makes them suddenly turn into their opposites, what, if anything, could be associated when those are at their peaks, are also critical ingredients in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy.

Addictions may be recognised in experiences of dependency, dependence, craving, habit, weakness, compulsion, fixation or enslavement.

Ironically enough, from the psychoanalytical perspective, addictions could be usefully seen as a type of ‘self-cure’ – it is a method constructed in order to evade the compulsion to suffer. Intoxication affords not just an immediate relief from pain, it also provides a feeling of independence from the external world. Indeed, with the help of substances the person can at any time withdraw from the pressure of reality and find refuge in a world of one’s own. Addiction with intoxicating substances may draw to it an enormous amount of resources, physical and financial, potentially leaving the subject totally depleted or ‘wasted’, as popular language would have it. The looming danger with addictions of this sort, besides the obvious risks to one’s health, may also include some potentially long-lasting changes in the person’s view of himself or herself. “I would no longer be ‘me’ without it”; “I am expected to keep achieving and could not do this without it” are typical accounts some therapists hear in their clinic. The combination of using substances as painkillers or as a means to sustain a particular lifestyle in which one is trapped makes it a formidable symptom to treat. The work may seem arduous, if not impossible, but this would be to underestimate the power of words. The patient’s understanding of the notion of ‘belief’, as well as what may have been seen and heard at the time in the past, are essential avenues to begin within Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy.

Impotence or obsessive thoughts of a sexual nature that distract from an intimate relationship between partners can wreck havoc in a couple. To make sense of this situation, different interpretations may include the firm belief that one is no longer attractive, that some extramarital affairs must surely be taking place, or that one partner has fallen out of love with the other. In all cases, the result may be devastating, partly due to the emotional distance this lack of intimacy can eventually create (in its reverse, sex may be going on not because of any sexual desire as such, but only to nurture this emotional bond). In Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy the French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan argued that ‘there is no such thing as a sexual relationship’. If each person has his or her specific ways and fantasies they use to reach sexual gratification, then how can we ever be exactly ‘on the same page’ with each other regarding our sexual desires? In therapy, what may be at play for men is a deep form of anxiety about being ‘swallowed up’, the stress of being each time tested for one’s performances, or for something somehow felt to be too close for comfort. Desire bursting forth can express itself in obsessively thinking about sex, minus its associated issues of intimacy, or in its very opposite: disgust

Short Biography

English French Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Stephane Preteux

Like so many students at this age, upon finishing a degree in Applied Mathematics from the University of Paris X (Nanterre) I decided to go and discover something else. London presented itself as an attractive choice; it was there that I would develop a lifelong interest, not just in the language, but of the English culture as a whole. My initial intention was to combine a background in Mathematics with a degree in 3D graphics and build a career in film visual effects (VFX). I subsequently worked in the film industry in London, Soho, for a few years, that is, until my interest in human sciences caught up with me. Thus, I first enrolled with the Metanoia Institute where I certified in Transactional Analysis. Feeling at home in this field, I continued and was awarded a diploma in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy from WPF, London. A few years later I would eventually graduate in Psychotherapy with a Master of Science (MSc) from Roehampton University. Today I am a fully accredited member of the British Association in Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). Practising privately in the UK since 2010 has provided me with a unique experiential understanding of language, at the heart of talking therapies. My sustained interest in psychoanalysis in particular, with the significance this field attaches to the structures of language allows me to conduct Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy with equal clinical efficiency in English and French.

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"Stephane Preteux's clinical skills are very advanced. His work is fully in accordance with the highest standards in the profession and bears witness to excellent reflexivity. His professional conduct with clients with a wide range of presenting problems is exemplary"

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Prof. Dany Nobus

Professor of Psychoanalytic Psychology at Brunel University London and Chair of the Freud Museum London

Fees - Budget Conscious Help

The initial assessment is £50 and is an opportunity for us to clarify the issues that have led you to consider psychotherapy, as well as your expectations as to its outcome. It may also be a chance for you to ask questions about me, my background, clinical work and qualifications as well as make your mind as to whether you feel confident that we can work together.

By the end of this session, I aim to discuss therapy options with you, including other services if for any reason therapy seems unachievable with me. If we agree to continue, we will discuss availability and fees as based on a sliding scale ranging from £55.00 for individuals who meet specific financial criteria to £65.00.

! Please note that insurance providers require patients to have contacted their insurance company PRIOR to any treatment taking place. Upon confirmation that treatment is covered within the agreed policy, the patient is expected to show their ‘Confirmation of Cover’ at their initial consultation.


All three locations are within distance from public transports, have parking facilities and disabled access.

Southfields SW18

Conveniently located between Wandsworth (SW11) and Wimbledon(SW19) the office in Southfields is only about 10 min walk from Southfields tube station on the district line. Parking is available.

Coppergate House E1

Coppergate House is located about 5 mins from Liverpool Street station, but also at a walking distance from Aldgate, Shoreditch and Fenchurch Street. This room has air conditionning.

London Road KT17

This private and quiet office is situated in a location within a few miles from Kingston, Cheam and Worcester Park in Surrey. The closest train station would be Ewell West and Stoneleigh.

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To book an initial appointment you can contact me directly by phone: 07921 860498, by email: or by filling up the secured form below and I will get back to you within 24h.

Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, Ethics and Confidentiality

There exist many different therapeutic approaches guiding the clinic, but none have to-date kept so faithfully close to the scientific rigour first applied to his discoveries by the founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud, than the French psychoanalyst Dr Jacques Lacan. My approach to Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy is therefore guided in principle by Lacanian tenets and regards questions of ethics to be at the core of the analytical work itself. If guilt is seen as a direct result of conflicts between our most authentic and most profound desires and the societal demands of a ‘civilised morality’ then how does the analyst work with it? It is important to stress here that psychoanalysis rejects all ideals, including ideals of ‘happiness’ and ‘health’. It sees its role as one of encouraging patients to explore the relationship between their actions and their desires.

Confidentiality in therapy is paramount and may be of significant concern for some clients. For my part, the handling of confidential materials between sessions is rigorously bound to the Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling & Psychotherapy as elaborated by the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy). Issues of confidentiality, as encapsulated in the list below, is for my practice a matter of:

  1. Being trustworthy: honouring the trust placed in the practitioner (also referred to as fidelity): Practitioners who adopt the fundamental principle of being trustworthy regard confidentiality as an obligation arising from the client’s trust.
  2. Autonomy: respect for the client’s right to be self-governing: Practitioners who respect their clients’ autonomy protect privacy; protect confidentiality; normally make any disclosures of confidential information conditional on the consent of the person concerned; and inform the client in advance of foreseeable conflicts of interest or as soon as possible after such conflicts become apparent.
  3. Providing a good standard of practice and care: All clients are entitled to good standards of practice and care from their practitioners in counselling and psychotherapy. Good standards of practice and care require professional competence; good relationships with clients and colleagues; and commitment to being ethically mindful through observance of professional ethics.
  4. Keeping trust: The practice of counselling and psychotherapy depends on gaining and honouring the trust of clients. Keeping trust requires careful attention to client consent and confidentiality.
  5. Respecting privacy and confidentiality: – Respecting clients’ privacy and confidentiality are fundamental requirements for keeping trust and respecting client autonomy. The professional management of confidentiality concerns the protection of personally identifiable and sensitive information from unauthorised disclosure. Disclosure may be authorised by client consent or the law. Any disclosures of client confidences should be undertaken in ways that best protect the client’s trust and respect client autonomy. – Communications made on the basis of client consent do not constitute a breach of confidentiality. Client consent is the ethically preferred way of resolving any dilemmas over confidentiality. – Exceptional circumstances may prevent the practitioner from seeking client consent to a breach of confidence due to the urgency and seriousness of the situation, for example, preventing the client causing serious harm to self or others. In such circumstances, the practitioner has an ethical responsibility to act in ways which balance the client’s right to confidentiality against the need to communicate with others. Practitioners should expect to be ethically accountable for any breach of confidentiality. – Confidential information about clients may be shared within teams where the client has consented or knowingly accepted a service on this basis; the information can be adequately protected from further unauthorised disclosures, and the disclosure enhances the quality of service available to clients or improves service delivery. – Practitioners should be willing to be accountable to their clients and their profession for their management of confidentiality in general and particularly for any disclosures made without their client’s consent. Good records of existing policy and practice and of situations where the practitioner has breached confidentiality without client consent, greatly assist ethical accountability. In some situations the law forbids the practitioner informing the client that confidential information has been passed on to the authorities; nonetheless, the practitioner remains ethically accountable to colleagues and the profession. I will do my best to answer any questions you may have regarding this particular code of ethics during the preliminary session.

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Frequently Asked Questions

If help is available it may not remain an easy process to go about deciding to find the right person to talk to. Below is a list of the most frequently asked questions around starting therapy ‘on the right foot’.

Therapy is an opportunity for you to talk safely in a confidential place about your life and all that may be confusing, painful or uncomfortable. The therapist is someone who is academically trained to listen attentively so as to help you cope better.

Therapy is a process which is personal. Going through painful experiences may feel as if things are worse than when you started. In the long-run however therapy should help you feeling better. If it doesn’t after a while you should let your therapist know that things are not improving.

Apart from rare occasions where a single session is enough it usually takes a number of sessions before therapy starts to make a difference.

No. Because everyone is different (therapist included) everyone will feel the therapeutic process differently. Some therapy are successful, others are less. The relationship with the therapist is central to any progress.

It is important that you find a therapist you find yourself comfortable with, which could mean that you want to search for someone who is aware of your cultural background. Having said this it should not matter for the therapist.

No. There exists different methods and approaches in therapy and you might want to discuss the various modalities with your therapist so as to be sure his or her way of working will be all right with you.

Many different types of therapy are available. However it is often found that your relationship with the therapist is central to the progress of therapy.

Sometimes only one session is enough to feel better. However, as the therapy progress it may be the case that sessions continue over several weeks or months. It is common practice after 6 or 12 sessions to review how therapy is going for you, and discuss whether you feel it is important for you to continue or not.

Sessions usually last fifty minutes to one hour. However it is also the case that some modalities extend or shorten this time

Usually people see their therapist once a week. However this frequency can change if you wish a more intense therapy. This should be made clear from the start in the initial session with your therapist.

he following are a list of recommended questions, however do also ask your therapist any others that you think of:

  • How many sessions will I have?
  • What type of therapy do you offer?
  • How much will it cost?
  • What happens if I miss a session?
  • What happens if I want to take a holiday, will I still have to pay?
  • Will the counselling be confidential?
  • Will you make notes during the session, and if so, what happens to these?
  • Can I contact my therapist in between sessions?

The initial assessment is a chance for you to ask about the qualifications the therapist has and whether he or she is a member of a professional body such as:

You might also want to check whether the therapist has any experience and/or training in any particular area of concern important to you.

Trust your first impressions. If might just be that after a few minutes you feel you can trust the therapist and that you are comfortable talking. If on the other hand you feel not quite at ease, you may want to reconsider your choice of therapist.

If after several sessions you don’t like your therapist you may want to address the matter with him or her. This might just be part of the therapeutic process iself (transference). If after a while there is still a real and long lasting discomfort then you may wish to consider seeking another therapist.

If you feel that after a while there doesn’t seem to be any difference for you, it is important that you discuss this with your therapist. If then nothing changes then you may wish to go to another therapist.

400-450 hours college-based therapy training is the number of hours BACP recommends as a minimum. You may want to ask your therapist for the details of their qualifications. Don’t hesitate to ask questions. If you still feel unsure, do contact the therapist’s professional body in order to verify their qualifications.

Currently there is no legal requirement for therapists to be licensed. However, it is wise to choose a therapist who is a member of a professional body and who is insured to practice.

If after a while you would like to end therapy it is preferable that you first discuss it with your therapist in order to bring things to a clean end. If this seems too difficult to do face to face, you may want to give notice of wishing to end therapy in writing. Please do bear in mind any agreement you made at the beginning of therapy with regards to ending sessions.

It is important that you discuss this when you make your agreement with your therapist at the start of therapy. Because the rooms I am using require me to be charged on an ongoing basis unless in exceptional circumstances I am charging for missed sessions.

This is important to clarify this at your initial session with your chosen therapist. For reasons related to hiring the rooms I personally expect payment for missed sessions including holidays.

What is being shared in therapy is confidential to the extent that it will not be reported to anyone except a supervisor who, for the protection of the client also offers his or her own interpretations and make sure no harm is being done. In other circumstances however, if there appears to be a serious risk of harm to you or to others the therapist should inform you of his or her intention in dealing with this situation. This is usually done with your permission. These circumstances should be explained to you at the beginning of your therapy.

What you tell your therapist is entirely up to you.

Therapists usually ask to have your doctor’s contact details in case they feel there is a serious risk of harm to you.

This is not encouraged. The therapy is for you and is safe because what you talk about is explored in depth between you and your therapist. If there are communication difficulties, it would of course be understandable to have an interpreter in the room. If you feel you would rather be with other people in therapy you may consider group therapy.

Useful Links

Professional Organizations

  • UKCP – United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy – – Tel. 020 7014 99 55
  • BACP – British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy – – Tel. 01455 883 300
  • BPS – British Psychological Society – – Tel. 0116 254 956

Other Useful Websites

Psychotherapy Training Organizations and Services